Why we shouldn’t feel guilty for making time for self-care and indulging

Self care activities are the small, daily things that we do to keep ourselves healthy. It can be painting your nails, meditating, or indulging in your favourite treat.  


Sometimes we can feel guilty for taking time out when we have a never-ending to-do list. But as much as we want to be productive and help other people, if we empty ourselves completely without recharging, we’ll have nothing to give.

Self care is normal and necessary. We shouldn’t feel guilty about normal and necessary things, especially if they make our lives better.

Here’s our steps to how you can feel less guilty about self care and indulging:

#1 Get rid of the guilt

Feeling guilty about spending time on these activities may be normal, but that doesn’t mean that it is healthy. As women, we often spend our time and energy taking care of everyone else, and our needs often fall by the wayside. However, taking care of yourself is something that you should never feel guilty about. It not only models healthy behavior for the ones you love, but it also keeps you happy and healthy so that you can continue doing what fulfils you.

To combat this guilt around self-care we need to re-frame it, because we deserve to take the time to do the things that make us feel good.

Grab a journal and pen and take a moment for self-reflection:

  • Do you feel like time you don’t spend working is time wasted?

  • Do you feel like others might deserve your time more than you do?

  • What activities make you feel the happiest?

 #2 Mindfully indulging without the attachment of guilt


Think of how many times a day you see some kind of reference to a woman ‘splurging’ because she meets a basic need like eating food she enjoys or taking time to relax. We are surrounded by messages that encourage us to minimise our own needs and feel guilty when we engage in indulging but we shouldn’t. 

Self-care can be indulging in your favourite snack at work or having a sweet-hit while watching your favourite netflix show. Our pick? Shelby’s Healthy Hendonism have created a delicious range of snacks that take the guilt out of indulging.  They’re all about having both clean ingredients & indulgent taste; it’s the best of both worlds. Try our favourite flavours the Raspberry & Dark Chocolate Dipped & Dusted Almonds and Cinnamon & Yoghurt Dipped & Dusted Almonds (they seriously taste like a cinnamon donut!).


#3 Schedule your self-care time and set boundaries

As over scheduled as our lives are these days, it can be quite a challenge to find time for yourself. There are a few things you can do, such as utilising your lunch hour at work or waking up that bit earlier. Sometimes though we still can’t seem to find time, which is where scheduling comes in.

Start small: schedule a 15 minute break into your day

Start by taking some time each day to pause. We all need activities that promote inner peace and calm, that allow us to unwind from stress and get in touch with our needs. Hopefully, the little bit of time you schedule for yourself will become so reinforcing that you'll find more and more ways to get more of it.

Take 15 minutes to walk around the block, practice grounding by walking on the grass barefoot in your garden or park, practice yoga, meditate, take a bath, do a face mask, make your favourite cup of tea or indulge in your favourite snack.

When you create a commitment to your self-care it not only reminds you to guard your time, but also reaffirms that it’s time well spent and stops you coming up with excuses or prioritise other things above your wellbeing. 


This post is in partnership with Shelby’s Healthy Hedonism. Shelby's is a health brand inspired by pleasure to empower people to indulge without insecurity. Healthy hedonism is a new kind of indulgence; one that’s sustainable - a little pleasure goes a long way towards good health. It’s having both clean ingredients & indulgent taste, it’s the best of both worlds.