Law of Attraction for Modern Women
I’m sure that you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction by now, and if so, may have been put off because of the ‘woo-woo’ factor of it all (e.g. The Secret). But when we break it down, the theory actually makes sense, especially as what’s really required is for you to learn how to control your thoughts and mindset and then take action.
So what is the Law of Attraction?
The Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. All thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.
“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get into that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” - Albert Einstein
Ok, so what does that actually mean?
Everything starts with your beliefs -> your beliefs shape your thoughts -> your thoughts therefore influence your words -> your words create your actions -> your actions build your reality
Let’s use wanting to start a fashion store as an example:
You focus on the fashion store you want to create > you believe that you can open a successful business > you start shaping your goals around your beliefs and thoughts of the store (such as locking down a brand name, researching products you want to stock) > you talk to your friends and family about what you’re doing and your goals > this motivates you to take even more action and you buy your first round of stock > as you continue to work on your goals, your initial beliefs begin to match what you have in your life now.
The magical/spiritual/woo woo part (which you can believe or not): when you start taking action, the universe will conspire to help you achieve it. If you don’t take action, and instead sit around and wait, the universe will also sit around and wait.
“Truly, ‘thoughts are things’ and powerful things at that when they are mixed with definiteness of purpose, persistence and a burning desire for their translation into riches or other material objects.” Napoleon Hill from Think and Grow Rich
Here are actionable steps to make The Law of Attraction work for you
1. Be aware of your beliefs
Grab a notepad and pen and write down, what you believe to be true about yourself and your life.
Are these positive beliefs or are they negative and limiting beliefs? Will these hold you back?
It’s time to flip the script on any current attitudes that will be limiting…
Limited thoughts could be: it’s so hard to date, it’s so hard to have a successful career, it’s so hard to make money.
Now flip it and create positive beliefs such as: it’s so easy to find my soulmate, it’s easy to have a successful career and I know the steps I need to do, it’s easy to make money.
2. Practice gratitude
When you are grateful for what you have, you will attract more of it into your life. The key to bringing more abundance into your life is putting positive, good vibes, into the universe.
If you are in a place of scarcity or lack it will stop the Law of Attraction in its tracks.
3. Use affirmations
An affirmation is a power statement, something that you want to embody. It is written and read in the present tense, so it can empower you to start taking action on what you want to achieve:
I am beautiful, with a strong and healthy body / I am a successful boss babe, killing it in my career.
Read it and repeat it out loud as least once a day.
This part can be difficult as your conscious brain will tell you that you’re just lying to yourself. Lady Gaga describes this step as: “You repeat it to yourself every day – ‘Music is my life. Music is my life. The fame is inside of me. I’m going to make a number one record and the number one hit.’ And it’s not yet, it’s a lie. You’re saying a lie over and over and over again but then one day, the lie is true.”
4. Journal and visualise
Journal every day, about your dreams and desires, but write it like you already have them in the present tense (this is known as scripting).
This method brings your emotions into your writing and imagine the details in your mind.
I have just reached my goal of selling 100 products, I feel so proud of myself for achieving this, I am going to celebrate with my friends and family.
You must believe that you already have that which you want. Jim Carrey describes this concept: “You get it when you believe you have it. People sit around and say ‘When’s it going to come? When it is going to come?’ But that’s the wrong way. You’re facing away from it. You have to say ‘It’s here, it’s here, it’s here’.
5. Create a vision board
I’m a visual person, so I love a vision board. Print out photos from pinterest, cut out magazine pages or stick up your own photos representing the dream life you want. Think; personal life, career, home, lifestyle, feelings.
Hang it where you will see it everyday, as it serves as a great daily reminder to keep you motivated.
6. Take Action
Although it’s the last step, it’s actually the most important.
Once you take action, the universe will take action to. So if you just sit there and wait for things to happen, the universe will also wait.
While it’s important that you have a burning desire to get what you want, it’s also important that you’re not attached to getting it in a certain way or within a certain timeframe. And it’s super important that you don’t believe your future will be better than the present – as this is all coming from a place of scarcity and lack. Which is a big no no if you want the Law of Attraction to work its magic.
It takes time to learn how to desire something without being attached to it. And how to be grateful for what you currently have while desiring more (since we’re taught to want things from lack rather than abundance). You get what you want when you’re not being desperate and needy about it!
If we go back to our previous example; you can have a goal to make $100k from your own fashion store. But don’t set specific strict channels on where this money is coming for. If you only focus on getting cash from selling clothes, you could lose out on other opportunities like collaborating with other brands or creating a styling service. Whilst you work on this goal, ensure that you’re still being positive and grateful about your current life and motivated (not desperate) to achieve your goals.
Just to clarify some common misconceptions…
Popular belief is that LoA is just wishful thinking and all you need to do is think about what you want and it will materialise. But you actually still need to work for it. Unfortunately you don’t just sit on your couch and think of being rich and BAM you get it.
The attitude that it’s only a New Age concept. The Law of Attraction was talked about by scientists such as Albert Einstein and also in classic books like Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill (1937). The Law of Attraction is not a new concept, though many are only just hearing about it for the first time now.
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